"There is a crack in everything, that's how the light gets in." - Leonard Cohen
In simple words, I work to get to know you, to help you to pay attention to what you are feeling and thinking, and to use strategies that bring about healing and growth. If you want more details...read on!
In my practice, I work from the perspective that people are shaped in the context of relationships and that it is through relationship with oneself and with others that transformation happens. I believe that the counselling process can foster mental flexibility, relieve emotional suffering, restore a sense of ease in the mind and body, and help clients to thrive.
My approach with my clients is collaborative (you and I are a team), attachment-based, emotionally-focused, neurobiological (strengthening helpful brain pathways and flow in the nervous system), and driven by your values; it involves getting to know you/your family and supporting you to understand yourself so that you can become more attuned with others and aligned with what matters to you.
My approach is also practical and down to earth. I hope that my clients become equipped to be their own therapist, in whatever capacity is possible for them. Whether we work together briefly or longer term depends on what your needs and goals are.
Rather than working to change or remove thoughts and emotions (which can be a futile and short lived solution) I guide clients to notice and accept their experiences, while at the same time learning to make more room for the thoughts, emotions and sensations that are helpful and bring about health. There will always be ups and downs, but it is possible to find ongoing balance and vitality.
In conjunction with the above practices, I believe that a therapist's level of wellness can influence what is possible for their clients, and am committed to self-care practices that allow me to conduct my work effectively and with heart.
When working with parents and children/youth, my approach is also collaborative and practical, helping you to identify unhelpful patterns and encouraging interactions that promote both secure attachment and healthy individuation. As stated by Bessel van der Kolk, a world renowned psychiatrist, researcher, author and educator - the parent-child connection can be the most powerful mental health intervention known to humankind. I have never met a perfect parent (myself included!), however I will support you to be the best possible parent for your child(ren).